Gen 39:7 And it came to pass after these things, that his master’s wife cast her eyes upon Joseph; and she said, Lie with me.
Gen 39:8 But he refused, and said unto his master’s wife, Behold, my master wotteth not what is with me in the house, and he hath committed all that he hath to my hand;
Gen 39:9 There is none greater in this house than I; neither hath he kept back any thing from me but thee, because thou art his wife: how then can I do this great wickedness, and sin against God?
Gen 39:10 And it came to pass, as she spake to Joseph day by day, that he hearkened not unto her, to lie by her, or to be with her.
Gen 39:11 And it came to pass about this time, that Joseph went into the house to do his business; and there was none of the men of the house there within.
Gen 39:12 And she caught him by his garment, saying, Lie with me: and he left his garment in her hand, and fled, and got him out.
So this week I am targeting the fornication issue we all know what happens, but how does it happen? Often times we find ourselves after the action asking…… how??? when? where? why?…… and especially “God I did not mean to do it!!!”
Yes it affects us all. One of the key things to dealing with a problem is to find out where it arises from. If we can find the root and kill it, then we can eliminate the problem (ask a man who trying to maintain a lawn) lol.
So we look at Joseph…. yeah yeah yeah…. we know he ran…. but what happened before? I will focus on Potiphar’s wife’s actions.
1. Gen 39:7 And it came to pass after these things, that his master’s wife cast her eyes upon Joseph; and she said, Lie with me.
Potiphar’s wife (we don’t know her name … but I would like to call her Jezila Jezebel/Delilah lol)… ok serious now.
Potiphar’s wife dis something first that we should notice, She cast her eyes on Joseph. In verbal language she said Lie with me (have sex with me). The bible gives no indication of her non verbal communication but there is a strong possibility that the lady of the house would have been well adorned with the best clothes jewelry and hair style. So she sees what the wants and says “I am going to get it”…… Her intent is to have sex with Joseph, no if but or maybe.
2. Gen 39:10 And it came to pass, as she spake to Joseph day by day, that he hearkened not unto her, to lie by her, or to be with her.
So day by day now she is contuiously asking him for “it”. But Joesph does not hearken unto her…meaning he is not taking her on because he has decided that he will not sin against God. She continuously presses however. She would not make this public knowledge however so it would only be done when they interact. (Picture whispering and subtle hints going on). We don’t know how long it was going on for but it was more than two days (day by day). But remember her mind was set.
3. Gen 39:11 And it came to pass about this time, that Joseph went into the house to do his business; and there was none of the men of the house there within.
So finally the opportunity presents itself. Joseph was ALONE. None of the men were in the house. He was alone with the Woman that was stalking him. So now she could not touch him all this time, but now SHE HAD A CHANCE …. because they were ALONE. Of course she took the opportunity cuz this woman was desperate. She grabbed him and all he could think of doing was what RUNNING… why? Could he have not overpowered her and took back his clothes? If he stayed HE MAY HAVE SUCCOMBED….. It is very possible that Joesph would run if he felt he could not have held her off due to the natural inclination to have sex with someone. He WAS still a Human wassn’t he?
So how does it apply to me? Well we go through the same thing regularly and though the circumstances may not be the same, the principle is VERY SIMILAR.
We as young ppl often times see things happening but don’t do anything about it because, well deep down inside we really want it. We would know that a girl or guy is tracking us and play like we do not like it but honestly we love the attention and we love the chase. The constant day to day probing of Potiphar’s wife was not allowed by Joseph but sometimes we allow that in our daily lives. In the sense of ‘leading on’ people because we love the attention. That is dangerous because you are giving them a chance to ‘jump’ you when you are alone and then you would end up doing something you don’t want to do. Then you ask ‘how dat happen?’, but if you track back carefully you would see that you caused it yourself by allowing the person pursuing yo to have a way in.
Another way is as a married man or woman (or even courting..with the intent to get married eh… cuz i doh promote ‘dating for fun’), you don’t be vigilant to the moves that people are making on your life. My wife once told me, when a woman wants something she gets it. I also know that pride amongst men can make them go after goals in some of the most extreme ways known to man. When we notice someone approaching us on a flirty friendship vibes we have to be diligent cuz we could easily be left with our clothes in their hand like Joesph. Notice to be left with the ‘clothes in hand’ it does not have to totally be the other person’s fault (not saying that Joseph was at fault at all eh). You may try to think that you are fighting off the approaches and at the last moment play that you did not want it to happen but all the while you were doing the ‘lead on’ tactic.
For courting couples this one is very pertinent cuz the urges that have to be battled are some of the STRONGEST IN THE WORLD….. is like WHEYYYY….WHY?
When you are courting and you know that this is ‘the one’ you start to feel a sense of ‘ownership’ of that person and you feel like, well, we goin and have sex when we married anyhow so why we fighting up so much to keep ourselves pure? Of course we know that sexual relations is meant for the covenant of marriage only and anything less is a sin against God. Those thoughts however sometimes overcome us and we make decisions that cause us to fall into sexual sin.
How do these decisions come about though?
Day by day we think about our husband or wife to be and we know that we want to have sex…. that’s real talk….. you think about it and you dream about and you fantasize about it…. but you try not to do it. Even though you don’t want to do it, you sometimes find yourself getting in positions where it’s easy to do it…. how? Well because you may be getting yourselves ALONE…. notice when Potiphar’s wife jumped Joesph she had to wait till they were ALONE. You doh have to tell me what happens when you are alone an in the dark…… I went through enough battles in the years before I got married to fight off urges and sometimes fail to fight them off.
The lead up is simple,
you know that if you go to see him or her tonight you will be ALONE….
and you know that if you are ALONE you would be tempted
and you know that if you are tempted you might FALL……..
and for some reason unknown to man YOU STILL GO!!!!!!!!!
The point is that you yourself know the leadup that happens when you are going to reach to that point…….. your resolve and decision should saying NO TO POTIPHAR’S WIFE… and going about your business in a pure Christly manner.
oh and doh even thinkkkkk that you hot enough to run at the ‘right time’ HA!!!!! Run as early as possible cuz you ain’t that strong.